Monday, July 29, 2013

Being Happy


My best friend has once told me that I'm easily pleased - I get happy and satisfied with little things. 
Neither did I nor her realize that as much as we hate to admit but very often, it's the simplest things in life that puts a smile on our faces.
And then I have friends who were absolutely amazed by the way I handled stressful times and even went on to tell me that should any of what had happened to me, happens to them, they'll either consider suicide or fall into deep depression. Only my closest friends know exactly what I'm talking about.
Now, I don't mean to be proud or braggy but I do admit I take things easily (sometimes a little too easily) and this could either be good or bad. 

Here's a good article about BEING HAPPY - with a few input from yours truly.
Enjoy and do feel free to comment.

1. Don’t hold grudges.
Quite impossible if you ask me. But I usually just shrug it off. People make mistakes and I'm equally guilty of it too. And for those who REALLY pisses you off, think of them as: beyond stupid or of different wave lengths. And you'll automatically forgive them.

2. Treat everyone with kindness.
The rule of the bible: Do to others what you want them to do to you. Treat others the way you want to be treated. Enough said.

3. See problems as challenges.
What's the worse scenario that can come out of the problem? You lose a job? Find a new one. Lost a loved one? Cry. Take a year or two to cry. And then move on as they would have wanted you to. Realize that millionaires did not come from a bed of roses. Most of them struggled REALLY hard to get to where they are today. If success is that easy, everybody would be successful today.

4. Express gratitude for what they already have.
There’s a popular saying that goes something like this: “The happiest people don’t have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have.” You will have a deeper sense of contentment if you count your blessings instead of yearning for what you don’t have.

5. Dream big.
yes, dream big. And then execute your dream. While doing this, put on a pair of ear plugs to drown out the laughter of others. The reason these people are laughing at you is because they have time on their hands to do so - which, well, means they are clearly not doing much of their own.

6. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
Happy people ask themselves, “Will this problem matter a year from now?” They understand that life’s too short to get worked up over trivial situations. Letting things roll off your back will definitely put you at ease to enjoy the more important things in life. See the bigger picture and always ask yourself: "What can be the worse outcome from this situation? and is life just all about this? If you were to die tomorrow, will this still be the biggest problem now?"

7. Speak well of others.
You never know when what you've said about others will reach their ears. Saying nice things about other people encourages you to think positive, non-judgmental thoughts.

8. Never make excuses.
Push yourself to be the best. You know you are on the right track when you constantly compare yourself - with yourself months ago. Be honest with yourself and never make an excuse for yourself.

9. Get absorbed into the present.
Happy people don’t dwell on the past or worry about the future. They savor the present. They let themselves get immersed in whatever they’re doing at the moment. Stop and smell the roses. Just last month when Malaysia was covered in haze, I just thought to myself "how nice it is to be able to go out and breathe in fresh air again." We very often take for granted the most beautiful things God has offered us - for free - the smell of flowers, fresh air, the rising of the sun in the morning and the sunset. Oh and the stars and moon twinkling and lighting up the dark skies at night. Live in the present. 

10. Wake up at the same time every morning.
Have you noticed that a lot of successful people tend to be early risers? Waking up at the same time every morning stabilizes your circadian rhythm, increases productivity, and puts you in a calm and centered state. And helps you think rationally too - seriously.

11. Avoid social comparison.
Everyone works at his own pace, so why compare yourself to others? If you think you’re better than someone else, you gain an unhealthy sense of superiority. If you think someone else is better than you, you end up feeling bad about yourself. You’ll be happier if you focus on your own progress and praise others on theirs. The best and only person you should compare yourself to - is, yourself. 
As a kid I was told that there's no such thing as a stupid person - the beggar on the road have seen and know some things you don't and will probably never know.  

12. Choose friends wisely.
I am still working hard on this. I usually hang around friends and companions who have the exact opposite nature and characteristics from myself. I guess they say, opposites attract?
Misery loves company. That’s why it’s important to surround yourself with optimistic people who will encourage you to achieve your goals. The more positive energy you have around you, the better you will feel about yourself.

13. Never seek approval from others.
It's great to get opinions and feedback from a third party every now and then, to help you see a bigger picture of whatever your are facing/going through but never allow someone to dictate your actions or decisions. If you have to always seek approval or rely on others to heavily influence your decisions or actions, you are a backbone-less person with no character of your own.
Happy people don’t care what others think of them. They follow their own hearts without letting naysayers discourage them. They understand that it’s impossible to please everyone. Listen to what people have to say, but never seek anyone’s approval but your own.

14. Take the time to listen.
Talk less; listen more. Listening keeps your mind open to others’ wisdoms and outlooks on the world. The more intensely you listen, the quieter your mind gets, and the more content you feel. And, my dear friends, by listening (which is what I ALWAYS LOVE TO DO), I am able to gage the way a person is, or his/her intentions just by the delivery of speech. Language is one of the only ways a human can express his/herself - how else better to determine the characteristics and true nature of a person if not by his/her speech?

15. Nurture social relationships.
A lonely person is a miserable person. Happy people understand how important it is to have strong, healthy relationships. Always take the time to see and talk to your family, friends, or significant other. Be surrounded by friends and people who lift you up and make you feel good - especially in your darnest moments.

16. Meditate.
Someone suggested that I join yoga and meditation. I just may. Meditating silences your mind and helps you find inner peace. You don’t have to be a zen master to pull it off. Happy people know how to silence their minds anywhere and anytime they need to calm their nerves.

17. Eat well.
Guilty as charged. 
Junk food makes you sluggish, and it’s difficult to be happy when you’re in that kind of state. Everything you eat directly affects your body’s ability to produce hormones, which will dictate your moods, energy, and mental focus. Be sure to eat foods that will keep your mind and body in good shape.

18. Exercise.
Even more guilty.
Studies have shown that exercise raises happiness levels just as much as Zoloft does. Exercising also boosts your self-esteem and gives you a higher sense of self-accomplishment.

19. Live minimally.
Happy people rarely keep clutter around the house because they know that extra belongings weigh them down and make them feel overwhelmed and stressed out. Some studies have concluded that Europeans are a lot happier than Americans are, which is interesting because they live in smaller homes, drive simpler cars, and own fewer items.

20. Tell the truth.


Honesty is really the best policy. It's good to be upfront and honest about things no matter how bad they'll make you look. Nobody likes liars let alone trust them. So, rub off that mask you call a face and quit having to "say or do things which you think will conform to society". Whatever that is.
Lying stresses you out, corrodes your self-esteem, and makes you unlikeable. The truth will set you free. Being honest improves your mental health and builds others’ trust in you. Always be truthful, and never apologize for it.

21. Establish personal control.
Can anyone say a big GUIL to the TY?
Happy people have the ability to choose their own destinies. They don’t let others tell them how they should live their lives. Being in complete control of one’s own life brings positive feelings and a great sense of self-worth.

22. Accept what cannot be changed.
Life is not fair. There are many, many things that are beyond our control and even if we were to turn back time to fix it, realize that there are many other things that could have happened either way and there's absolutely nothing anybody can do about it. No matter what the scenario is. Once you've accepted that, you'll not be afraid of anything that'll come your way. 
Once you accept the fact that life is not fair, you’ll be more at peace with yourself. Instead of obsessing over how unfair life is, just focus on what you can control and change it for the better.

Thursday, July 18, 2013

Casa Mia


  I never thought this day would come so soon. No, it's not my wedding day. Not my engagement day either. It's a day.........

Just a day in my life....

When I finally.......

Buy my own house.




Yes, folks, I made the first house purchase (or at least the first step: by booking it because I can't decide which unit to take - story for later) TODAY!!

Now, I'm a real bitch when it comes to selecting a residence to purchase or live in. I'm extremely anal about everything related to my house. For me, my house is my private space - nothing spells ME clearer than the very place I live in hence those who know me well know that I'm very extremely careful about having people over at mine.

I generally do not like people coming over to mine unless invited by me. I love my own space and my privacy. (a sign of staying on my own for too long and well on my way to "forever alone" LOL).

Anyways, I shall not reveal where exactly this property is but let's just say its at a PRIME location. It's EXACTLY at my desired location for a house.


When buying a house, location takes up 90% of importance, for me. I consider these few things (according to priority, 1 being the most important):

1) How jammed is the area?
2) Is it easy to get to KL City or PJ, are there many alternative routings?
3) I should know the area well. As in, the routes and roads.
4) How close am I to where my family members are staying?
(for emergency purposes, you'll never know, right?)
5) Is it a huge hassle getting to my office?
6) What are the surrounding area like? Is it convenient? (clinics, food stalls, etc.)

When choosing to buy a place of residence, the above is of EQUAL IMPORTANCE as the condition of the condominium itself.

And when selecting the condominium unit, I'll consider these few things, again, according to importance.

0) The price of the condominium - because this will determine a little what kind of people will be buying the units and also, heeeheee, IF I CAN AFFORD THIS PROPERTY IN THE FIRST PLACE!!

1) What level is the unit on? 
I will NEVER buy a low level unit - simply because (depending on areas and the surroundings) it can be too noisy, dusty, etc. hence privacy and comfort will be affected. Plus, I enjoy stepping out on the balcony every now and then just to enjoy the night lights, day time scenery or even the cool breeze ( i guess the higher, the cooler the breeze?).

2) What is the built up size of the unit? - I don't like the unit being too big especially if it's just for my dear self. Actually, I dont dig big houses in general. Too many corners in a house scares the bejesus out of me.

3) The lay out of the unit. I HATE developers that make too many rooms/small empty square spaces in a unit. I think it's an utter waste of space and being my father's daughter, I'll always look at how I can place a door to combine two rooms/empty space into one - or if it's permitted, which walls I can knock down or turn it into an arch =)

4) A balcony is a MUST for an apartment/condominium.

5) The area of where the condominium/apartment is to be built. What kind of people live nearby?

6) The other amenities that comes with the unit - plaster ceiling, free aircon, etc. Yes, I'm chinese lah ohkay, whatttoooddoo?




The pool view of my upcoming condo.



Condo surrounded by retail shops at the bottom. 




The 31-storey high condominium. 
I won't say which exactly but I'll be taking a very, very, very high floor.

Oh the gymnasium is awesome too by the way!


Cheers to me on this new property. 
Let's hope there's many more to come!
If you're really interested to know the location of this,
kindly drop me an email at ms.rosalyn@gmail.com

Two of my friends are in the midst of checking out this property after coming to know about the location and pricing of the units from me. It's a good buy!!

And no, I am not, have not, and will probably not - ever - be a property agent. 
So rest assure that this is no advertisement. LOL.



What do YOU look for when purchasing a residence?







Monday, July 8, 2013

10 Things I Thought of as a Child


  It's impossible to let you in to the mind of a 25-year-old me but I shall not hesitate the slightest bit to let you in to the mind of a 6-year-old me.

Here are the ten things I truly believed in as a kid. 


1) The world is flat. I believe what I see. The roads are straight and flat on the ground. Oh yeah, the ground is flat too and so is the ocean. The world is flat. No doubts about that and it didn't make any sense to me why do these people make the globe round.



Right.




2) If I lie next to a boy, I'll get pregnant. I know, I've come a long way *grins* I have no idea who put this idea in to my innocent mind so I was always quite afraid to lie or sleep next to my cousin. I've decided I'll have a sex talk with my future daughter when she turns 6. For sure.



3) The human heart is in the shape of a heart and it's located in the middle of the chest. Oh, and the heart is red in colour. 


Well err, not this big, but you get the picture.


4) Whenever I had a headache, I always thought there's something growing inside my head. Because my head hurts and especially when I have fever at the same time, it could get really warm. 


I always thought it's growing somewhere right in the middle.


5) I chose my "boyfriends" just by looking at them. Yeah, I remember clearly that there was this boy whom I think was quite handsome, when I was in kindergarten at age 5!!! So every time my aunties ask the 5-year-old me if I have a boyfriend in school, I'll say yes. 
Oh and yes, I started noticing boys at 5 years old, not when I hit puberty. My first disney love was Aladdin and I thought Princess Jasmine was the prettiest princess amongst all the other disney princesses. There you go, my taste in men was apparent since I was a kid. As a kid, I also always found "men" to be appealing - men, not boys.


At 6 years old, that was my idea of a handsome boy and a pretty girl.
I guess my taste didn't change much.


6) This one is pretty embarrassing and just goes to show I was indeed a real diva. I always thought I was secretly a princess. And it didn't help that I was always told to be the one who 'look different' and I was "picked up from the garbage truck" (this story was told to me in different variations by different aunties). So yeah, the little me thought it's not entirely impossible if I turn out to be a an actual princess from a far away land. 



yeap, that's a 6-year-old me who thought I had royal blood flowing through my veins.

7) Couldn't understand why my mum's surname is different from mine. In Malaysia, the wife is not allowed to legally (IC/Driver's License, etc) take the husband's last name as compared to other countries in which you have the option to do so or it's a must.
Hence, I always felt she was from a "different" family.



8) When I grow up, my boyfriend will ride a white horse in search of me. I wished someone would have talked to me about reality and the truth, there and then. And convince me that there's no such word as "happily ever after". 




9) My mum was literally everything for me. I'll cry if she doesn't pick me up from school or kindergarten on time. I'll cry when she goes to the pub with my dad leave me watching Disney movies on video tapes at home. When each movie finishes and she's not back, I'll cry. I've always thought to myself that if my mum ever dies, I'll probably die too because I won't be able to function without her. Of course as I grow older, I grow more detached from her. But I still love her the same. She's someone I tell almost everything to. 


10) Now this is something I wish I still had with me now - I never got scared watching Chucky or IT or any horror movie as a kid. I used to be able to sit alone at night in the TV hall watching the horror clown movie IT and Chucky and how I want to scream to warn the victims each time they are about to be killed (I would know when because I always had the movie Chucky and IT on repeat). And I thought it was silly of my friends to be afraid of clowns  because of the movie IT. Each time I asked about their fear of clowns, they'll all ask me the same question - have you watched IT, Rosalyn? yes I have, I would answer and would proceed to tell them that the clown in the movie is just acting and that I personally don't find it scary and that they shouldn't too. Oh well. Kids. What can I say? LOL!!



(ps: i know some of my friends will still flinch when looking at the above pictures.)




Fast forward 19 years later....

Rosalyn has her eyes close 50% of the entire horror movie in the cinema with friends. 



How I miss my childhood and being innocent!  =(